Single and frustrated
We all need to have sex. If you’re single, this can be a problem. If you want to find someone who can help ease this frustration, sex expert, Judy Dutton, may help. She states that people who attract the most attention from men are those who send out 35 flirtatious signals per hour. This sounds like a huge amount, but flirting can be very subtle. Stroking your arm or tilting your head is considered a flirtatious act. One of the most powerful ways to flirt is to hold eye contact with the man you want. You can also angle your head forwards, so you have to look slightly upwards. This position makes women look more feminine and more alluring to men.
Know your body
Put your hands up if you want a body-shaking, pleasure-blinding orgasm? Then it is time to explore. Even in the present age, female masturbation remains taboo. Yet how can you expect your man to pleasure you, if you don’t know what is a turn-on and a turn-off? To find out what you like, try when you are alone. You will need to focus on different areas, at different times, to discover what is best for you. There are also herbal oils that can stimulate you. Zestra oil is said to arouse sexual desire and heighten the sensations of sex. Be aware that Zestra is oil based and is not compatible with latex contraception, like condoms.
Talk more
We all have them, but do we know what the erogenous zones are? The female hot-spots are the: feet, neck, ears, wrists, nipples, butt, vagina, clitoris, lips, inner thighs and the back of the knees. Now you know what they are, you need to tell him. Ask him to stroke, kiss or massage each and every one at different speeds and with different pressures. Make sure you ask him sensitively, avoiding bossing. Get in bed and kiss him. Then give gentle direction and tell him how good each thing feels. Later, take this one step further by wearing a blindfold. It adds a new dimension to your sex life whilst making your erogenous zones ultra sensitive.
Know his body
Lots of research has gone into what turns men on, yet relatively little has gone into researching what turns a girl on. Although it may be hard for the feminists to swallow (in some cases literally) it seems that sexually satisfying and pleasing their partner is a big turn on for many women. So get to know his body and what he likes. Compared to the female, the male erogenous zones are more widely disputed, but areas you should pay attention to are the: foreskin, corona, neck, anus, feet, nose, perineum and underarms. You should aim to tickle, kiss and lick these areas. Some men also like to be bitten or scratched – make sure you ask first.
Relax
Sometimes we just don’t feel like sex and that is fine. But if we are stressed for a sustained period of time, our libidos often suffer. In a YouGov poll 43% of females admit their sex drive is affected by stress. To combat this you need to learn how to relax. A useful tip is to take a steamy hot shower, then quickly switch to cold. This is a quick and effective way to lower stress levels; it also stimulates your body. As your stress levels decrease, begin on some subtle foreplay. Ask your man to join you in the shower, once wet, lead him out and start to dry his body. Work slowly and rub him all over. Get him to do the same to you.
Position
Rodeo, Bridge, Figure Eight...erotic acrobatics are fun, but do they help you achieve orgasm? If you’re looking to climax during sex, your position should stimulate your clitoris, your vagina or your G-spot. If you want to try and work all three, lay flat on your bed. Put a pillow in the arch of your back and ask your man to enter you in the missionary position. The pillow will angle your body up. This causes more friction and stimulates your clitoris, whilst also allowing for deeper penetration. Another big-O position is if you go on top. Your clitoris will be sandwiched between your pelvic bone and his, leading to that essential clitoral stimulation.
Silence
Although talking during sex can be a turn-on, during the latter stages of sex, when you are about to reach climax, silence may be key. According to studies women need to focus on the sensations men provide to achieve the most powerful orgasms. When you feel that you may come soon, try to focus on each sensation you are feeling. For example, focus on the weight of your man on you, focus on the feel of his hands touching you and the taste of his lips. Even though you know that you need some quiet time, your partner may not. To stop him from speaking, kiss him or seductively hold a finger to his lips.
Saturday, 17 December 2011
Is Your Girlfriend Only Dating your Money?
Does She Only Love Your Money? Or, is she a golddigger?
(Warning: I'm dying to reference Kanye West's 'Golddigger' in this article. Somehow.)
Even if she isn't messing with "broke niggas", its the fact that the your relationship with her is, in fact, her relationship with your wallet. There's nothing wrong with having a girl you only sleep with, but if the L word comes into play, you need to know what you're dealing with.
This is how you spot a girl who's only after your money.
She Became Interested When You Got Rich
Your wealth suddenly put you in "league" with her, and while she wasn't even remotely interested in you, she's got a newfound love of low cleavage dresses when's around you. Further, she's never dated a regular, average income guy and hangs around with the swish-set.
She Spends It All on Pretty Things
Her credit card is maxed out on branded wear and perfumes, but she can't afford a decent cupboard to stock it all in (let alone a good apartment to live in).
She Needs Incentives
She uses sex to make you buy her fancy stuff. While she won't say "Give me fancy stuff if you want sex, dammit!", there's many subtle ways of doing this. It could be mentioning earrings during foreplay, or even withholding sex until you buy her expensive bling.
She Wants You to Spend Money
A picnic in the park or the VIP seats at the movie theater, and she nags you until you get the seats. She deletes plans that involve spending less and doing more, and will never, or rarely volunteer to pay her part of the bill.
She also never does anything for you - never cooks you a nice meal, run errands when you're busy or surprise you with an unexpected gift.
She Loves Money
Everyone does. But if your girlfriend is constantly fixated on the lives of rich people and their wealth, and considers materialistic things to be paramount to everything else, it's a sign that the above 4 tendencies will kick in.
(Warning: I'm dying to reference Kanye West's 'Golddigger' in this article. Somehow.)
Even if she isn't messing with "broke niggas", its the fact that the your relationship with her is, in fact, her relationship with your wallet. There's nothing wrong with having a girl you only sleep with, but if the L word comes into play, you need to know what you're dealing with.
This is how you spot a girl who's only after your money.
She Became Interested When You Got Rich
Your wealth suddenly put you in "league" with her, and while she wasn't even remotely interested in you, she's got a newfound love of low cleavage dresses when's around you. Further, she's never dated a regular, average income guy and hangs around with the swish-set.
She Spends It All on Pretty Things
Her credit card is maxed out on branded wear and perfumes, but she can't afford a decent cupboard to stock it all in (let alone a good apartment to live in).
She Needs Incentives
She uses sex to make you buy her fancy stuff. While she won't say "Give me fancy stuff if you want sex, dammit!", there's many subtle ways of doing this. It could be mentioning earrings during foreplay, or even withholding sex until you buy her expensive bling.
She Wants You to Spend Money
A picnic in the park or the VIP seats at the movie theater, and she nags you until you get the seats. She deletes plans that involve spending less and doing more, and will never, or rarely volunteer to pay her part of the bill.
She also never does anything for you - never cooks you a nice meal, run errands when you're busy or surprise you with an unexpected gift.
She Loves Money
Everyone does. But if your girlfriend is constantly fixated on the lives of rich people and their wealth, and considers materialistic things to be paramount to everything else, it's a sign that the above 4 tendencies will kick in.
How to turn him on
Ladies, we all know that the way to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his pants. So it can be a nice surprise for him if you turn him on first, rather than vice versa. If you want to drive him wild and become the best he’s ever had then put these top tips into practice:
The five senses
Sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing; we all know what the five senses are, but do you work them during sex? Before you jump into bed light a scented candle and put on some music. Wear a flavoured lip gloss, some perfume and something silk. You could even introduce some tasty food; strawberries or cream are failsafe classics. To finish off, whisper naughty things into his ear and purr softly. You can also heighten the experience with a blindfold.
Dress up
Bondage, latex, frills and panties; there’s a lot of kinky kit on offer. However, you don’t always have to look like some kind of gadget girl to send thrills through his body. Keep it simple with some stilettos. If you can’t walk very well in heels, don’t worry. Just wearing them in bed is enough to please him. You can turn up the heat by adding some sexy stockings or socks. Other simple yet effective props include wearing nothing but a simple leather belt or even a wig.
Tease
Teasing a man makes every touch sensational. Begin by telling him that he can’t touch you, but that you can touch him. Start to kiss him, working from his head down. Linger around his groin, but don’t actually touch him there. Then rub, kiss, tickle and squeeze his whole groin area, but again don’t touch his penis. He’ll soon be begging for more. You can take this one step further by wearing some clothing that is revealing, but that covers up some of your best bits.
Surprise
Sometimes your man may feel like he wants sex more than you, so why not make him feel wanted by surprising him? When he’s in the house, you could dress up in a sexy outfit and wait on your bed until he finds you. Or you could walk past him naked. As you walk out of the room make sure you look back over your shoulder and shoot him a cheeky smile or blow him a kiss – he’ll instantly know what you want.
Rub his perineum
Your man has a perineum, which is the area of skin between his testicles and anus. This small area often gets overlooked during sex, but he would love it if you gave it some attention. Firstly, stand behind your man. Start to stoke his penis and kiss his neck. Place two fingers on his perineum and rub. Try to do this for a few seconds at a time, repeating until he’s fully aroused. You could also work this area during oral.
Use your hair
Your hair is your greatest weapon in the battle to try to drive your man wild. Firstly, prepare your hair. Use a leave-in conditioner. Then before you pounce on your guy, take a perfume you know he likes and spray it onto your brush. Then comb your hair with the brush. Once you’re in bed blindfold him, take your locks and start to stroke and tickle his hot body. The combination of touch and smell will seduce him in seconds and leave him wanting more.
Message him
Letting your man know that you’re thinking of him, and thinking about him in a sexual way, is a big turn on. Send him a message, it can be something simple like “I really want you tonight”, or something a little more risqué; do what you feel comfortable with. It sounds so simple, but it gets results. Your man will now be having kinky thoughts about you all day and as soon as you walk through the door he won’t be able to resist you.
The five senses
Sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing; we all know what the five senses are, but do you work them during sex? Before you jump into bed light a scented candle and put on some music. Wear a flavoured lip gloss, some perfume and something silk. You could even introduce some tasty food; strawberries or cream are failsafe classics. To finish off, whisper naughty things into his ear and purr softly. You can also heighten the experience with a blindfold.
Dress up
Bondage, latex, frills and panties; there’s a lot of kinky kit on offer. However, you don’t always have to look like some kind of gadget girl to send thrills through his body. Keep it simple with some stilettos. If you can’t walk very well in heels, don’t worry. Just wearing them in bed is enough to please him. You can turn up the heat by adding some sexy stockings or socks. Other simple yet effective props include wearing nothing but a simple leather belt or even a wig.
Tease
Teasing a man makes every touch sensational. Begin by telling him that he can’t touch you, but that you can touch him. Start to kiss him, working from his head down. Linger around his groin, but don’t actually touch him there. Then rub, kiss, tickle and squeeze his whole groin area, but again don’t touch his penis. He’ll soon be begging for more. You can take this one step further by wearing some clothing that is revealing, but that covers up some of your best bits.
Surprise
Sometimes your man may feel like he wants sex more than you, so why not make him feel wanted by surprising him? When he’s in the house, you could dress up in a sexy outfit and wait on your bed until he finds you. Or you could walk past him naked. As you walk out of the room make sure you look back over your shoulder and shoot him a cheeky smile or blow him a kiss – he’ll instantly know what you want.
Rub his perineum
Your man has a perineum, which is the area of skin between his testicles and anus. This small area often gets overlooked during sex, but he would love it if you gave it some attention. Firstly, stand behind your man. Start to stoke his penis and kiss his neck. Place two fingers on his perineum and rub. Try to do this for a few seconds at a time, repeating until he’s fully aroused. You could also work this area during oral.
Use your hair
Your hair is your greatest weapon in the battle to try to drive your man wild. Firstly, prepare your hair. Use a leave-in conditioner. Then before you pounce on your guy, take a perfume you know he likes and spray it onto your brush. Then comb your hair with the brush. Once you’re in bed blindfold him, take your locks and start to stroke and tickle his hot body. The combination of touch and smell will seduce him in seconds and leave him wanting more.
Message him
Letting your man know that you’re thinking of him, and thinking about him in a sexual way, is a big turn on. Send him a message, it can be something simple like “I really want you tonight”, or something a little more risqué; do what you feel comfortable with. It sounds so simple, but it gets results. Your man will now be having kinky thoughts about you all day and as soon as you walk through the door he won’t be able to resist you.
How to turn him on
Ladies, we all know that the way to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his pants. So it can be a nice surprise for him if you turn him on first, rather than vice versa. If you want to drive him wild and become the best he’s ever had then put these top tips into practice:
The five senses
Sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing; we all know what the five senses are, but do you work them during sex? Before you jump into bed light a scented candle and put on some music. Wear a flavoured lip gloss, some perfume and something silk. You could even introduce some tasty food; strawberries or cream are failsafe classics. To finish off, whisper naughty things into his ear and purr softly. You can also heighten the experience with a blindfold.
Dress up
Bondage, latex, frills and panties; there’s a lot of kinky kit on offer. However, you don’t always have to look like some kind of gadget girl to send thrills through his body. Keep it simple with some stilettos. If you can’t walk very well in heels, don’t worry. Just wearing them in bed is enough to please him. You can turn up the heat by adding some sexy stockings or socks. Other simple yet effective props include wearing nothing but a simple leather belt or even a wig.
Tease
Teasing a man makes every touch sensational. Begin by telling him that he can’t touch you, but that you can touch him. Start to kiss him, working from his head down. Linger around his groin, but don’t actually touch him there. Then rub, kiss, tickle and squeeze his whole groin area, but again don’t touch his penis. He’ll soon be begging for more. You can take this one step further by wearing some clothing that is revealing, but that covers up some of your best bits.
Surprise
Sometimes your man may feel like he wants sex more than you, so why not make him feel wanted by surprising him? When he’s in the house, you could dress up in a sexy outfit and wait on your bed until he finds you. Or you could walk past him naked. As you walk out of the room make sure you look back over your shoulder and shoot him a cheeky smile or blow him a kiss – he’ll instantly know what you want.
Rub his perineum
Your man has a perineum, which is the area of skin between his testicles and anus. This small area often gets overlooked during sex, but he would love it if you gave it some attention. Firstly, stand behind your man. Start to stoke his penis and kiss his neck. Place two fingers on his perineum and rub. Try to do this for a few seconds at a time, repeating until he’s fully aroused. You could also work this area during oral.
Use your hair
Your hair is your greatest weapon in the battle to try to drive your man wild. Firstly, prepare your hair. Use a leave-in conditioner. Then before you pounce on your guy, take a perfume you know he likes and spray it onto your brush. Then comb your hair with the brush. Once you’re in bed blindfold him, take your locks and start to stroke and tickle his hot body. The combination of touch and smell will seduce him in seconds and leave him wanting more.
Message him
Letting your man know that you’re thinking of him, and thinking about him in a sexual way, is a big turn on. Send him a message, it can be something simple like “I really want you tonight”, or something a little more risqué; do what you feel comfortable with. It sounds so simple, but it gets results. Your man will now be having kinky thoughts about you all day and as soon as you walk through the door he won’t be able to resist you.
The five senses
Sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing; we all know what the five senses are, but do you work them during sex? Before you jump into bed light a scented candle and put on some music. Wear a flavoured lip gloss, some perfume and something silk. You could even introduce some tasty food; strawberries or cream are failsafe classics. To finish off, whisper naughty things into his ear and purr softly. You can also heighten the experience with a blindfold.
Dress up
Bondage, latex, frills and panties; there’s a lot of kinky kit on offer. However, you don’t always have to look like some kind of gadget girl to send thrills through his body. Keep it simple with some stilettos. If you can’t walk very well in heels, don’t worry. Just wearing them in bed is enough to please him. You can turn up the heat by adding some sexy stockings or socks. Other simple yet effective props include wearing nothing but a simple leather belt or even a wig.
Tease
Teasing a man makes every touch sensational. Begin by telling him that he can’t touch you, but that you can touch him. Start to kiss him, working from his head down. Linger around his groin, but don’t actually touch him there. Then rub, kiss, tickle and squeeze his whole groin area, but again don’t touch his penis. He’ll soon be begging for more. You can take this one step further by wearing some clothing that is revealing, but that covers up some of your best bits.
Surprise
Sometimes your man may feel like he wants sex more than you, so why not make him feel wanted by surprising him? When he’s in the house, you could dress up in a sexy outfit and wait on your bed until he finds you. Or you could walk past him naked. As you walk out of the room make sure you look back over your shoulder and shoot him a cheeky smile or blow him a kiss – he’ll instantly know what you want.
Rub his perineum
Your man has a perineum, which is the area of skin between his testicles and anus. This small area often gets overlooked during sex, but he would love it if you gave it some attention. Firstly, stand behind your man. Start to stoke his penis and kiss his neck. Place two fingers on his perineum and rub. Try to do this for a few seconds at a time, repeating until he’s fully aroused. You could also work this area during oral.
Use your hair
Your hair is your greatest weapon in the battle to try to drive your man wild. Firstly, prepare your hair. Use a leave-in conditioner. Then before you pounce on your guy, take a perfume you know he likes and spray it onto your brush. Then comb your hair with the brush. Once you’re in bed blindfold him, take your locks and start to stroke and tickle his hot body. The combination of touch and smell will seduce him in seconds and leave him wanting more.
Message him
Letting your man know that you’re thinking of him, and thinking about him in a sexual way, is a big turn on. Send him a message, it can be something simple like “I really want you tonight”, or something a little more risqué; do what you feel comfortable with. It sounds so simple, but it gets results. Your man will now be having kinky thoughts about you all day and as soon as you walk through the door he won’t be able to resist you.
How to boostup lovemaking and become more confident in bed?
I've been in a very fun relationship with a man for two years, and we love each other very much. However, this does not transfer to the bedroom. We have sex between one to four times a month. We enjoy it but it's not earth-shattering. In fact, it's mostly missionary position, we rarely have foreplay and it only really varies when I'm drunk (and therefore more confident). Although, we do both orgasm (almost) every time, I feel we're missing out on something important and that it may cause problems in the future. I think we're embarrassed or nervous to get "down and dirty" and I never feel I'm in the throes of passion. How can we spice it up or become more confident in bed?
You describe your relationship as "fun", but you leave that outside the bedroom door. Sex doesn't have to be serious. Being more playful, teasing each other, even introducing sex toys that make you giggle might help you relax and slow down. If you can communicate more about your specific needs you should be able to become excellent sexual partners. If your partner doesn't initiate sex as much as you'd like, don't wait for him. Be brave and experiment with various approaches until you find ways to turn you both on. And don't expect sex to always be easy and spontaneous. It's something we have to learn through trial and error, so keep practising.
• Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
You describe your relationship as "fun", but you leave that outside the bedroom door. Sex doesn't have to be serious. Being more playful, teasing each other, even introducing sex toys that make you giggle might help you relax and slow down. If you can communicate more about your specific needs you should be able to become excellent sexual partners. If your partner doesn't initiate sex as much as you'd like, don't wait for him. Be brave and experiment with various approaches until you find ways to turn you both on. And don't expect sex to always be easy and spontaneous. It's something we have to learn through trial and error, so keep practising.
• Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
Top 10 gifts for your Girlfriend
Gifts and Surprises: These two words are sure to get your girlfriend excited any time of the day, at any given hour.
While the words may get the her excited and enthusiastic, the wrong choice of gift and/or surprise will cause her face to lose colour before you can begin to give any explanation. So before you run out of any ideas, or fall prey to cheesy ones or lose face by gifting her the wrong surprise, read our list of Top 10 Gifts for Your Girlfriend.
(The listed gifts are in no particular order of preference)
10. Couple Spa Date
'Women are predictable!' is what men said when asked what gifts you'd give your girlfried. A very debatable statement, but an extremely safe gift choice. Women LOVE Spa. Arrange a Date Spa evening and she won't stop smiling. This is a great way to relax, enjoy each others company and flirt with intimacy.
9. Girls Night Out
This one is surely an unusual gift choice, but one that will get you into her best books asap. Sponsoring and organising a finely planned night out for her and her besties will show her how much you care for her and the girls who matter to her the most. It does not have to extravagant, a simple fair can seal the deal and steal her heart.
8. A Perfect Date
If you can make the effort to plan an evening for her with her girlies, go the extra mile and plan the perfect Date with her. A date night, in the middle of the Arabian sea in a yacht. Add to that a romantic candle light dinner, soulful music, soothing wine and she will be swooning all over you before the date is anywhere near the end.
7. 2 Bags full of Zara clothing
Hahaha! This one is surely a no-brainer. Clothes, accessories, shoes make a woman go CRAZY! Spurlge on her. If you know her choice well, pick some elegant and fashionable clothing for her from Zara, Vero Moda, Mango and the likes. If she is the fussy choosy types, escort her to these stores and pay the dutiful bag-holder and bill-payer. Women, at the end of the day, love to be pampered.
6. A branded watch/perfume
This is the staple gift to give when you can't think of anything to give. You can never go wrong with a watch or a perfume unless you are a real douche! Don't buy her fakes or duplicates, she won't appreciate it, will never use them and might refuse to see you ever again. If you are short on money, buy an original Titan instead of going all out and fancy.
5. A silver waist chain
Now this one reads unconventional all the way round. But it spells intimate and personal to the core. Getting her to wear an accessory around her waist at all times is ensuring you're by her side 24/7. This gift will leave a smile on her face for days to come, and whenever she feels the chain she is bound to go pink with joy!
4. A smartphone / laptop
Most girls don't LOVE gadgets, but that does not mean they don't want to possess the latest one to use as a fashion accessory. Gift her an Apple iphone or a Blackberry or a Dell laptop even. Gifting an everyday essential item like this is safe, is sure to please her and gets her to not expect another gift for quite a while.
3. A weekend getaway
Every other human being is stressed today. With work, family, friends, social obligations you may find yourself to have very little time left to be with your girlfriend. If you and she are feeling this time crunch, plan an easy, comfortable weekend getaway. It doesn't have to be fancy, but surely can be romantic. A long drive, followed by a comfortable stay in a good hotel will uplift your and her spirits and bring you'll closer.
2. A credit card add-on
Now this one reads COMMITMENT. Don't venture down this road if she is not the ONE. But once you do gift her a credit card add-on, (and provided she accepts) you have very clearly, smoothly and sauvely sealed the deal.
1. Commitment/Engagement Ring
While the above gift will seal the deal, this one will clinch it. Women take particular pride in wearing their commitment/engagement ring around the ring finger. It does not have to be a huge solitaire, nor can it be a cheap plastic round mould. Buy one that goes with her sensibilities and your pocket.
While the words may get the her excited and enthusiastic, the wrong choice of gift and/or surprise will cause her face to lose colour before you can begin to give any explanation. So before you run out of any ideas, or fall prey to cheesy ones or lose face by gifting her the wrong surprise, read our list of Top 10 Gifts for Your Girlfriend.
(The listed gifts are in no particular order of preference)
10. Couple Spa Date
'Women are predictable!' is what men said when asked what gifts you'd give your girlfried. A very debatable statement, but an extremely safe gift choice. Women LOVE Spa. Arrange a Date Spa evening and she won't stop smiling. This is a great way to relax, enjoy each others company and flirt with intimacy.
9. Girls Night Out
This one is surely an unusual gift choice, but one that will get you into her best books asap. Sponsoring and organising a finely planned night out for her and her besties will show her how much you care for her and the girls who matter to her the most. It does not have to extravagant, a simple fair can seal the deal and steal her heart.
8. A Perfect Date
If you can make the effort to plan an evening for her with her girlies, go the extra mile and plan the perfect Date with her. A date night, in the middle of the Arabian sea in a yacht. Add to that a romantic candle light dinner, soulful music, soothing wine and she will be swooning all over you before the date is anywhere near the end.
7. 2 Bags full of Zara clothing
Hahaha! This one is surely a no-brainer. Clothes, accessories, shoes make a woman go CRAZY! Spurlge on her. If you know her choice well, pick some elegant and fashionable clothing for her from Zara, Vero Moda, Mango and the likes. If she is the fussy choosy types, escort her to these stores and pay the dutiful bag-holder and bill-payer. Women, at the end of the day, love to be pampered.
6. A branded watch/perfume
This is the staple gift to give when you can't think of anything to give. You can never go wrong with a watch or a perfume unless you are a real douche! Don't buy her fakes or duplicates, she won't appreciate it, will never use them and might refuse to see you ever again. If you are short on money, buy an original Titan instead of going all out and fancy.
5. A silver waist chain
Now this one reads unconventional all the way round. But it spells intimate and personal to the core. Getting her to wear an accessory around her waist at all times is ensuring you're by her side 24/7. This gift will leave a smile on her face for days to come, and whenever she feels the chain she is bound to go pink with joy!
4. A smartphone / laptop
Most girls don't LOVE gadgets, but that does not mean they don't want to possess the latest one to use as a fashion accessory. Gift her an Apple iphone or a Blackberry or a Dell laptop even. Gifting an everyday essential item like this is safe, is sure to please her and gets her to not expect another gift for quite a while.
3. A weekend getaway
Every other human being is stressed today. With work, family, friends, social obligations you may find yourself to have very little time left to be with your girlfriend. If you and she are feeling this time crunch, plan an easy, comfortable weekend getaway. It doesn't have to be fancy, but surely can be romantic. A long drive, followed by a comfortable stay in a good hotel will uplift your and her spirits and bring you'll closer.
2. A credit card add-on
Now this one reads COMMITMENT. Don't venture down this road if she is not the ONE. But once you do gift her a credit card add-on, (and provided she accepts) you have very clearly, smoothly and sauvely sealed the deal.
1. Commitment/Engagement Ring
While the above gift will seal the deal, this one will clinch it. Women take particular pride in wearing their commitment/engagement ring around the ring finger. It does not have to be a huge solitaire, nor can it be a cheap plastic round mould. Buy one that goes with her sensibilities and your pocket.
Mr. Right is 22 kisses, 5 heartbreaks away
The path to true love will also see her endure six bad dates, have six one-night stands and be cheated on four times before finding her perfect match, reports the Daily Express.
Relationship must reads: 5 Tips to Feel Closer to Her
The average man will make slightly more of his single days, kissing 23 girls and having 10 one-night stands before getting round to settling down.
But he will also have his heart broken six times, according to the survey of 2,000 people.
Photos: Celebs who are unlucky in love
Spokesman Dean Adams said: "We all know how hard it can be to find the right one but seeing it added up like this makes for terrifying reading."
The survey found that the average woman would have her first boyfriend at 15, and date nine men before settling down
She will be dumped four times and will break up with someone five times.
But when they find their perfect match, women know within the first four weeks. (ANI)
Relationship must reads: 5 Tips to Feel Closer to Her
The average man will make slightly more of his single days, kissing 23 girls and having 10 one-night stands before getting round to settling down.
But he will also have his heart broken six times, according to the survey of 2,000 people.
Photos: Celebs who are unlucky in love
Spokesman Dean Adams said: "We all know how hard it can be to find the right one but seeing it added up like this makes for terrifying reading."
The survey found that the average woman would have her first boyfriend at 15, and date nine men before settling down
She will be dumped four times and will break up with someone five times.
But when they find their perfect match, women know within the first four weeks. (ANI)
How to make your man more romantic
Firstly, focus on the positive. Instead of concentrating on all the things that he doesn't do, look at what he does. Making you a cup of tea in the morning, buying you your favourite chocolate bar or putting your washing away may seem like mundane actions but they all show that he cares and wants to do nice things for you.
Romance doesn't have to be all flowers and expensive dinners, but about showing each other how much you care and spending quality time together.
It is easy to think that the man has to do all the work but when was the last time you made a romantic gesture? Lead by example and take the responsibility for a putting a bit of romance back into your relationship. Cook him a nice meal, run yourselves a candlelit bath or give him a backrub after a long day at work.
Victoria Lukats, psychiatrist and relationship expert for Parship.com says, "Romance is important as it keeps couples connected and shows your partner that you are thinking about them. Do romantic things for him but be careful not to suffocate him. Start off small."
You may be thinking it's all very well you doing all the work - but what about him? If you want your man to be more romantic you need to tell him. As much as we would like our men to know exactly what we want and deliver it without us having to ask, they are not mind readers.
"You need to find a way to communicate," says Victoria. "If you say ‘do this', it's not very romantic so you need to lead them by the hand. Don't be prescriptive but give them the chance to do it by themselves."
Try to find a trigger for the conversation such as a scene on TV or a story about your friends and use this to talk about your own relationship. Put the emphasis on you both as a couple and try to steer clear of giving him a lecture. Say, "Wouldn't it be nice if we did this," or, "I'd love to do... with you."
And remember, men's idea of romance is often very different to yours so don't be negative and criticise him when his gestures fail to live up to your expectations. Instead, be happy that he has made the effort and use it as a starting point for a romantic future.
Here are four steps to take towards turning your man into the one in the movies...
Tease him
Hints don't work very well with men but it is always worth a try. Leave this article up on your computer, talk about a friend's romantic partner or comment on a romantic scene on TV. All these things might give him some ideas but you are best off just telling him how you feel.
Tell him
Men aren't mind readers - much as we'd like them to be - so you need to tell them what you want. Don't make it confrontational but open up the conversation by asking what you could do to make him feel more wanted/loved/appreciated.
Teach him
The best way to get someone to change their behaviour is by setting an example of what you would like done. Do something romantic for him - that he would like not just what you want - and he will be more inspired to reciprocate.
Treat him
Everyone likes to be complimented so make sure your man knows how pleased you are when he makes romantic gesture. Don't overdo it but be genuine about your feelings and what it means to you.
Romance doesn't have to be all flowers and expensive dinners, but about showing each other how much you care and spending quality time together.
It is easy to think that the man has to do all the work but when was the last time you made a romantic gesture? Lead by example and take the responsibility for a putting a bit of romance back into your relationship. Cook him a nice meal, run yourselves a candlelit bath or give him a backrub after a long day at work.
Victoria Lukats, psychiatrist and relationship expert for Parship.com says, "Romance is important as it keeps couples connected and shows your partner that you are thinking about them. Do romantic things for him but be careful not to suffocate him. Start off small."
You may be thinking it's all very well you doing all the work - but what about him? If you want your man to be more romantic you need to tell him. As much as we would like our men to know exactly what we want and deliver it without us having to ask, they are not mind readers.
"You need to find a way to communicate," says Victoria. "If you say ‘do this', it's not very romantic so you need to lead them by the hand. Don't be prescriptive but give them the chance to do it by themselves."
Try to find a trigger for the conversation such as a scene on TV or a story about your friends and use this to talk about your own relationship. Put the emphasis on you both as a couple and try to steer clear of giving him a lecture. Say, "Wouldn't it be nice if we did this," or, "I'd love to do... with you."
And remember, men's idea of romance is often very different to yours so don't be negative and criticise him when his gestures fail to live up to your expectations. Instead, be happy that he has made the effort and use it as a starting point for a romantic future.
Here are four steps to take towards turning your man into the one in the movies...
Tease him
Hints don't work very well with men but it is always worth a try. Leave this article up on your computer, talk about a friend's romantic partner or comment on a romantic scene on TV. All these things might give him some ideas but you are best off just telling him how you feel.
Tell him
Men aren't mind readers - much as we'd like them to be - so you need to tell them what you want. Don't make it confrontational but open up the conversation by asking what you could do to make him feel more wanted/loved/appreciated.
Teach him
The best way to get someone to change their behaviour is by setting an example of what you would like done. Do something romantic for him - that he would like not just what you want - and he will be more inspired to reciprocate.
Treat him
Everyone likes to be complimented so make sure your man knows how pleased you are when he makes romantic gesture. Don't overdo it but be genuine about your feelings and what it means to you.
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